Arguing is totally different when you re married than when you re dating. I don t care how long you ve been together before you get married, once you get married the whole arguing dynamic completely changes. Cause when you re just dating, you know one very important thing about the arguing situation: you know you can leave with your stuff. But when you re married, there s this little thing called commitment. That means you are working this out in a minute, in a month or when you surrender.