We broke up, and my first reaction was Fine -- I ve been through this too many times. I can t change your mind. I can t live your life for you. You re gone in your direction. I m going to pick up; I m going to go in my direction. I m not going to live in the past. I m not going to embrace the pain. You go, I ll go, and that will be it. And I felt that way for an hour and 10 minutes.